But as for what I really do…I’m a freedom catalyst, a problem solver, a project architect and a life design strategist. I love to build community and create connections. I’m a self-proclaimed personal development geek and technology nerd. I’m also a certified health, parent, and life coach.
I help you discover and get what you want…within the life you have now.
Where others see limitations, I see shades of gray and endless possibilities. Where others see problems, I see opportunities to choose more freedom and fulfillment.
I’m an insatiable learner and a deep listener. I ask the questions that others are thinking but are afraid to ask. I say the things that others won’t say. I’ll be your fierce supporter, cheerleader and edge pusher.
Together, we put you at the center of everything in your life.
I especially love to work with people who DO have responsibilities, obligations, and beliefs that keep them feeling like they aren’t free to be themselves and do what they want how they want to do it.
“Sometimes when we play a role, we look outside of ourselves for the job description and we stop being ourselves. It’s like we’re missing from our lives. When we find our way back to our true selves, we feel better again.” ~ Deb Blum
I do what I do because I want you to have the life you deserve – the one where no part of you is left behind – where you are free to be the REAL you and live life the way YOU want. Yes, especially as a mom, in your marriage, in your job, and/or as you run your business.
I think we we all spend too much time and energy trying to be someone for someone else. We feel the pressure of society’s rules, childhood and media conditioning, and “shoulds”. Without even noticing, we become someone that we don’t even want to be. We don’t pursue projects we want to pursue because we’re afraid of judgment or failure. We play it safe, stay small and follow the rules. Then we wonder why we’re bored, uninspired, restless, and unfulfilled! So my passion is to work with moms and leaders who want to throw away the rule book and start playing bigger, bringing more of themselves to everything they do, and making their own way in (and mark on) the world. I work with wayfinders who don’t need a map because they are on their own journey and together we chart their course!
I want you to have satisfying relationships, do projects and work you love, feel great about yourself and your life, and feel proud as a mom!
You see, I lost myself in my marriage and in motherhood.
I sacrificed myself in a bid to make everyone else’s life better. I thought that was what a “good mom” did. I looked around and created an idealized version of “mom” and I compared myself to that. The over-achiever in me just kept pushing to do better and be better.
Love Wasn’t Enough
When my kids entered elementary school, my life started to crumble. I couldn’t quite figure out what was going on, but I knew I felt empty, numb, distant, lonely and confused. I blamed my marriage but the truth was, it was me – I was unhappy, unfulfilled, dissatisfied with the life I created. Of course I adored my kids and in many ways I loved my life (which added to my confusion).
But I was suffering.
My childhood baggage was showing up in so many interactions – I was triggered way too frequently and blaming everyone else for my misery.
Learning to Be Loved For Who I Am Not What I Do
When I nearly lost my marriage 7 years ago, I put my healing and inner work into high gear. My husband and I had a lot of work to do, but I soon realized that my real work was the journey back to myself – to heal from my childhood wounding, to reclaim all of the parts I rejected in hopes to be a more acceptable human, to figure out who the heck I was.
I Rebuilt Myself and My Marriage
I’ve been fortunate to have amazing mentors, guides, teachers, therapists, and coaches who have helped me to find my way back to myself. To rebuild my marriage. To find more balance and inner peace.
“We might feel a sense of something missing – but there’s nothing missing from us. WE are what is missing – from the whole. The whole is missing us.” – Russel Williams
Moving From My Head to My Heart
Here I am – living more fully than ever, each day discovering new parts of myself that want to be expressed and integrated – feeling more connected, empowered, inspired, and lit up than ever. I can ride the waves of life and weather the inevitable storms instead of being tumbled about. I’ve learned how to not shut out parts of my experience, not shut out parts of who I am and what I feel.
Finding My Own Way
As I lean more into being the real me and living my life the way I want, life just gets more amazing. I have days when I am just buzzing with energy and feel like my heart is going to bust out of my skin. Like life is almost too good to handle.
All of the “Shoulds” are Killing Us
I can help you cut through who you think you should be so you can find your way back to who you really are – your essence. As you learn who you really are, show up more authentically and live a life more true to yourself, you feel more comfortable allowing your kids and everyone else around you to be authentically who they are…to show up as their true selves…to live their own lives without the pressure to “be someone.”
As a result, your relationships will deepen and be more enriching and fulfilling. And you’ll discover that playful, fun, and laid back person you thought you’d be as a mom.
Getting Real…Being the Real You.
I won’t ever ask for you to reach towards perfection. It’s time for our kids to see what it’s like to have a human experience – and humans are messy and imperfect, growing and learning, connecting and hurting, and much more. What I will call for is for you to drop the facade and get real because getting real is the foundation for connection and good parenting.
One of my coaching super powers is to accept and love you fully as you learn to accept and love yourself fully – for who you are. I will simultaneously accept you for who you are in each moment and call you to lean into your truer, more authentic self. As a result, you will be able to better connect with the people in your life that you love. This leads to a more patient, happier, fulfilled and peaceful you! (And more energetic, effective and productive you too!)
“A year from now you will wish you had started today.” ~ Karen Lamb
What’s the cost of spending a lifetime not showing up as the REAL you, not living your life fully, and not having the close relationships you deserve? None of us want to look back at our lives with regret.
Don’t wait any longer.
Click here to schedule a free skype coffee date with me!
You can tell me what’s up for you and I’ll tell you about the way I creatively work with moms so it’s not a huge time commitment and yet you make great progress.